Thursday, July 17, 2008
Finding the 'Thing'
Part of parenting is helping our kids become whoever it is that God has designed them to be. Unique. As much as I enjoy the differences of all five of my kids, I wish that they were more the same. That way the same principals would apply in the same way. Each of my children are so different (just like yours) and helping them find their strengths, talents, and gifts can be exciting and tiring. The older they get those traits naturally start to take shape.
It has been fairly easy to watch the two oldest kids (14 &11) fall into their strengths and gifts but our middle child, Eden (10), has been a bit more difficult to figure out. "Poor me" is her battle cry. Always the underdog. The victim. I know that those things come easily to the middle child, at least that is what Kevin Lehman and birth order will say. But oh my goodness.
This Summer in an attempt to find "her thing" she joined the city swim team. They meet Mon-Fri 8-9am. While the exercise has been good, I am seeing that team sports is really not her passion. She is much more interested in chatting with her new BFF Raven. They are always the last two in the pool, and when Raven is absent swimming is no fun for Eden. This morning at 7:30 I was trying to wake her up and her reply was "Please don't make me go, I am so tired." So I let her sleep wondering if that was right. After all she is a team member. She has made a commitment. She has a meet on Saturday. But then again, she is 10 years old.
I think this swim team experience is good for both Eden and I. It again confirms that a child has to LOVE a sport to justify this much commitment at this age. Eden loves to swim...just not like this. She just wants to play in the pool. Not work on her butterfly stroke. As much as I dislike the commitment of football in the fall our son is passionate about it. So we let him play and endure all the hours of practice and playing while cheering him on.
Back to Eden. She has recently decided that she doesn't want to go to college. Instead she wants to work in a pet store. Oh yes, she loves animals. Have I ever mentioned that I don't care for creatures in my home? She has decided that she would also like a guinea pig. My thoughts are this: Smelly. Dirty. Rodent. Cost me money. Nagging about clean up. Hairy. Dirty. Smelly. Did I mention stinky? But in yet another attempt to find Eden's passion we are in discussions and fund raising for the guinea pig. She had a lemonade stand this week which earned $9. I am of the thinking of 'prove to me how much you want this'.
Am I the only one that thought parenting was only about raising children and helping them to become whatever it was they were created to do? Because parenting has taught me also so much about myself and also God's role with us. Especially my impatience. I am sure He is smiling watching us try to figure these kids out.
Posted by Jill at 9:00 AM